Sweetheart, whether the relationship was great or not, whether it lasted for 5 weeks or 5 years, a breakup can leave you feeling lost, broken and betrayed. It can trigger pains, heartaches and unsettling feelings. It can leave you sick and your world upside down (oh yes!).
A healthy coping mechanism is essential to getting over the ‘ex fever’. Even if the relationship was a mess, a breakup will drop you at a ‘Zero level’- you have to pick yourself up, you have to let go of the feeling of abandonment, disappointment and betrayal. Don’t let anything tie you down.
These tips will help you heal and mend your broken heart.
TALK OR WRITE OUT YOUR FEELING
You have lots of feelings are all jammed up inside you, so you have to let it all out. Talk to your friends, family, maybe a therapist, this will make you feel better. You can also keep a journal, there are so many emotions involved in a breakup and if you keep them bottled up it can hurt you, write how and what you are feeling.
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK
Take a break from everything that stress your mind, you need your ‘you time’ gather your strength since you are not ‘superwoman’ heal every part of you, take time to regroup, re-energize, and re-boost because you will need to get back out there you know? *winks*.
Know that its OK to cry, allow yourself mourn the loss of a relationship, after all you are a woman. Don’t be in denial, admit that you are hurt, cry, get angry. But its just for a little while.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
After a breakup all you want to do is cry and eat, when you start eating bad, your diet gets worse and you gain unwanted pounds, so do not take refuge in bad foods, eat good food and healthy diet. Avoid mindless eat, exercise and rest.
GET INTO ACTIVITIES YOU LOVE AND BE POSITIVE
Give yourself a reason to want to get up every morning, have a reason to want to move on, do the stuffs you enjoy or love, like Running, Strolling, Travelling, Shopping. Just get out there again.
TAKE YOUR TIME
Remember not rush into another relationship just because you are lonely and he is available.
Nobody said its going to be easy, but you will heal.